Weekly Top 5 (Week of May 9th, 2021)
This weekend was a whirlwind. We had friends over for board games and fun on Saturday night, and Sunday was a busy mother's day. My family did a wonderful job of loving on me, and I got some lovely gifts from them. I also got to spend some quality time with my daughter painting pottery. I'm including the pics of a couple of my gifts I really enjoyed receiving and the pottery my daughter and I painted.
I'll try to remember the photos of the potter once it has been glazed next week. This week I have had a couple of things on my mind as far as my studying, the most pertinent being Tantra, so without further ado, here is this week's Top 5.
1. What is Tantra?
I have been interested in Tantra for quite some time. The interest began shortly after I began a yoga and meditation practice of my own. My husband, too, was interested in tantric meditation and practices for a while, and I loved the changes I witnessed in him while he was focusing on the practice. As I have learned more about mental health and wellness and more about human sexuality, my interest has grown immensely. I believe there is so much connection to ourselves and the world around us that can be found through tantric practice. This is a very general introductory article on Tantra and hopefully will pique your interest a bit too.
2. Urban Tantra
This is a book I have slowly been working my way through over the past year. It is a fantastic resource and introduction to Tantra, especially if you cannot find a local Tantric Practioner or coach near you. It looks at a broad range of topics and how Tantra can be woven into them or how a tantric practice can affect them. I have had this book recommended to me multiple times, and I have recommended it to several people as well, and I have always heard good things.
3. BDSM & Tantra
Last night, I attended a lecture on BDSM and Tantra that I found very informative. As someone who loves sensation play, merging Tantra and BDSM elements can be a wonderful marriage of experiences, emotions, vulnerability, and intimacy. Sadly, I can not share the specific lecture I attended last night, but I found some articles I wanted to pass on to you.
4. Does a Vibrator Desensitize a Woman?
We're changing topics here, but I wanted to bring this one up, as I recently had someone ask me about this very topic. The person was concerned about using toys with their partner because they believed it would desensitize the woman or cause her not to achieve climax unless using the vibrator. I think this article for Sex with Emily did a fantastic job of addressing this concern and gave some great oral tips as well.
The podcast where I am the resident sexologist, K101, did an episode this past week on sex and aging, and it made me realize that I needed to talk about lube. Lube is a tool, nothing more, nothing less. Lube can be useful for self-pleasure, oral, vaginal sex, and anal sex. It is useful for women, especially during all times of our cycles and at all ages. The use of lube does not mean the women is not aroused enough for sex either; sometimes we need a bit of extra lubrication because maybe we didn't drink enough that day, or maybe we are just in a low point of lubrication in our cycle, or perhaps we are entering menopause. For men, lube can be useful for receiving oral, giving oral, and for anal activities. There are so many wonderful lubes on the market too!!! If you have particular questions about types of lube, please feel free to reach out. I also wanted to share this article from Sex with Emily about how lube enhances intimate lives.